Despite the fact that we are in fact living in the 21st century, unfortunately there are still many myths circulating out there about the mystical thing that is, the vagina. Why this is, I’ll never know, but it’s likely to do with the fact that there is still such a stigma and taboo around talking openly and honestly about our bodies and about sex, something which I’ve often talked about on this blog.
So today, I’m sharing with you a few common myths about the vagina that are completely untrue. Because the more we talk about our bodies, the more informed we all are and there will (hopefully) be less myths floating around out there!
That if you have regular sex you will “get loose”
This is so beyond false I can’t even begin to describe how untrue it is, yet it’s one of the most common vagina myths I think I’ve personally heard. No matter what you’re putting up there, nothing is going to stretch your vagina permanently. The vaginal muscles are incredibly stretchy, a bit like elastic, and will always bounce back. So whilst the vagina does respond to being turned on by expanding in size to accommodate intercourse, it shrinks back to its usual size afterwards.
That your vagina should self lubricate basically on cue
Contrary to popular belief, it takes a little more than a click of your fingers to get things going down there, and not everyone will be self lubricating right before having sex. This is a really important one as I think young people associate not lubricating with older women and maybe see it as a problem, but it’s actually really normal. Things such as certain medications, breastfeeding, approaching and going through menopause are all things which can impact your self lubrication.
Foreplay is also really important for women as this allows us that extra time to get things going and get ready for sex, something which is necessarily require for people with penis’.
Also, lube is available to buy basically everywhere now including shops like Boots so if vaginal dryness is something you struggle with, this is definitely an option for you.
Women should be able to orgasm purely from penetrative sex
It might surprise you to learn that research and surveys suggests only around 30 per cent of women can orgasm just through penetration. And there’s a pretty good reason for this. A large majority of your nerve endings are located in your clitoris, making this the most sensitive and reactive part of your vagina for the majority of women. Put simply, penetration doesn’t necessarily make our bodies react in the same way as a combined approach or just clitoral stimulation, so it shouldn’t be considered the be all and end all of the female orgasm. At the end of the day, every body and every vagina is different and with a bit of experimenting, you’ll figure out what works best for you.
Discharge is dirty
Discharge is actually the vagina’s way of self-cleaning and is full of ‘good’ bacteria which help protect against infection. Healthy discharge should be white or clear and relatively odourless. Know what’s normal for you, and if you notice more discharge than usual, itchiness or a marked change in smell then go to the doctor or try a self-test.
That the vagina has several parts, including the labia, clitoris and urethra
Actually, although it’s often used to describe the whole downstairs area, the term ‘vagina’ only refers to the muscular internal passage that ends at the cervix – the opening to the uterus. What we often think of as the external vaginal area is actually called the vulva. The vulva is an umbrella term for the external downstairs area, which includes the inner and outer labia (vaginal lips), the entrance to the vagina, and the urethra.
The more often you use a vibrator, the less sensitive your vagina will be
I’m not even sure where this comes from or what the logic is but it’s false, of course. The theory is that your vagina is going to get less and less sensitive the more often you use vibrating sex toys and you will not be able to feel things as well as you might have done previously. In fact, whilst things might feel a bit less sensitive immediately after using a vibrator, there’s nothing to suggest that using sex toys has any long term effects on the sensitivity of your vagina or your ability to orgasm without them.
Have you heard any other vagina myths, or did you believe any of the ones we’ve talked about today? Let me know in the comments!
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