If you’ve been reading my blog for a while, you’ll probably be aware that my boyfriend and I are in a long-distance relationship at the moment, with about a 3-hour drive between us. However, he came up to visit a few days before the UK went into lockdown so is now stuck with me in my flatshare for the foreseeable future. And it’s safe to say it’s been a pretty interesting experience so far.
Disclaimer: Obviously this picture was taken before isolation was enforced – a picture of us in our pjs on the sofa isn’t quite as nice.
When he first arrived, we actually had a discussion about what would happen if the C-Word situation was to get worse, and we originally decided he would go home if he was able to. It made logical sense as I was working from home at the time and he had only packed enough stuff for a weekend and also has things to be getting on with back home.
However, when the lockdown came into force, it was stated that only essential travel was allowed, so we ummed and ahhed over whether it was essential for him to go home and decided, it probably wasn’t.
Maybe it sounds weird or maybe it will come across as insensitive, but it’s actually quite nice to be able to spend so much time together. I think the last time I saw him for more than a few days was back at university, so at least 2 or 3 years ago! Of course, we wouldn’t have wanted it to be in this situation, but its nice to have company and nice to be able to spend this amount of time together without many distractions.
How to keep busy during isolation
So, what have we been getting up to? Well, at the beginning of the lockdown, I was working from home so during the week my boyfriend was largely entertaining himself, although we were doing a home workout and a social distancing walk every day. In the evenings, we were cooking, cleaning, socialising with my flatmate, watching Netflix and generally relaxing. I have now actually been furloughed, meaning I’m still employed but not working, so our days have been filled with a bit more exercise, a bit more Netflix, some crafting and cleaning, but a lot of enjoying spending time together.
We’re trying to keep the weekends different but I’ll be honest, it kind of all blends into one. We’ve dug out my old PS2, I’m playing animal crossing, we’re reading, making up quizzes for each other, playing board games, having Skype parties with friends… Anything to pass the time!
How are you coping?
Having never really lived together properly before, being in lockdown together is certainly an experience. Only having one room as well doesn’t help as we don’t really have much of our own space, as I live in a flatshare with another girl. But we’re coping. Actually a lot better than I thought we would.
We haven’t really had any arguments as such, but we don’t argue a lot anyway. Of course there are times when we get on each others nerves a bit, like when he plays his music really loud or doesn’t listen to me properly because he’s on his phone, but he’s also been annoyed by me nagging about washing and wanting to plan out our days.
Living together through this is an adjustment for sure. It’s bizarre and unpredictable but I’m also glad I’m not going through it alone and we have each other for company.
How are you dealing with lockdown? Are you keeping yourself busy or still working? Or are you from another country where the C-Word is being dealt with differently? I’d love to hear your experiences in the comments. Stay safe x