I used to picture self-care in a very specific and stereotypical way; a bubble bath, a face mask and glass of wine is usually what springs to mind. Whilst this is great, self-care is so much more than just a pamper evening every once in a while.
It’s a phrase we hear so much of online nowadays. Self-care has become a sort of buzzword that we use when we simply just need to take a moment to ourselves. Modern life is so incredibly busy and we are all committed to so much and being pulled in so many different directions, that I believe it is becoming increasingly important for us to remember to look out for number one.
So, what is self-care?
Self-care cannot really be defined, because it varies so much from one individual to another. Self-care is an outfit that looks different on everyone. Sometimes it’s snuggling in bed and watching Disney, other times its reading that book you bought three months ago but never got round to. An introvert’s idea of self-care might be a night in, while an extrovert may feel comforted by a trip out to the cinema or a meal.
The best way I can define self-care is an activity that never feels like a ‘should’ – it is something you enjoy, something you want to do and it doesn’t require a box on your to-do list. It is basically an activity that nourishes you in a physical, emotional or spiritual way.
However we choose to define it, self-care is something we all need. In theory, it seems easy – however, feeling like you deserve to spend some time on yourself can sometimes be harder than you think. We are often so concerned with the self-care of others that we forget about looking after ourselves.
But, as someone that frequently struggles with finding time for self-care, I thought I would share some of my ideas with you to help get you started:
Declutter your space
They say a tidy house makes a tidy mind, and I do find it works! Having a clean and organised space can be one of the most satisfying things you can do for yourself (and you always find some hidden treasures along the way!) I like to use this time to create a nice atmosphere around me by lighting some candles, that’s how I really treat myself!
Whether it’s an adult colouring book or baking an indulgent recipe, a good creative project can help you work out some of that stress in a really therapeutic way. It’s also good to focus your mind on something totally different to your job or school life.
Find your green fingers
A lesser commitment than a pet, but still something that you can look after and focus some attention on. A plant will make your space feel fresh and brings a little bit of nature indoors for those lazy bed days. Plus, who doesn’t love cacti?
Spend quality time with those around you
It can be as easy as choosing to stay in one evening, or suggesting a coffee with a friend, but I find that putting myself in good company is a sure fire way to lift my mood and make me feel relaxed. I find for me that spending time with friends really centres me and helps me to re-focus on what is important to me.
Bed is a real haven for me, and there is nothing I love more than getting tucked up in my duvet and putting a film on. There’s something that feels really calming and secure about being snuggled up in my own space, and it’s obviously very relaxing too!
I hope these pointers help you to remember that self-care can be whatever you want it to be. These are just a few things that work for me, but you may find your own list is wildly different. Please remember, it’s so important to take care of yourselves and do let me know your best self-care tips in the comments!
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